This phrase, she will do him good, is one that is found in the Proverbs. It is part of the chapter that teaches us to be a virtuous woman. The definition of virtuous is having and showing high moral standards. It is synonymous with righteous, good, pure, moral, ethical, principled, upstanding, of moral excellence. That is a lot to live up to! The verse I want to focus on today talks about her relationship with her husband. It states she will do him good all the days of her life.
Proverbs 31:12 “She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.”
First, let me say that no one can accomplish this unless they have first submitted to the Lordship of Jesus Christ. We are born selfish and that nature takes over unless we first submit ourselves to Christ. This lady seeks to please God in her actions and her attitudes. She is truly grateful for His blessings and His forgiveness. Having experienced the goodness of God allows her to trust Him to take care of her and free her from worry and stress.
Truly trusting allows you to forget about yourself. You understand that God will take care of your needs. This allows you to think of others first.
Doing her husband good, would mean that she is always pursuing his best interest. She is consistent in her conduct towards him. If circumstances cause financial hardships, or illness causes pain, she is still seeking what is best for her husband. She is committed to him until the death of one of them. Her love is not based on how she feels, it’s based on a decision she made when she married him.
Age does not change her, as she grows older her determination, and her love him only grows stronger. Her action, attitude, and love stem from the relationship she has with her Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.
She does not belittle him to others. When speaking of her husband, she seeks to lift him up as a good husband. Her words will show praise and reverence. Any problems they have will be dealt with at home, not broadcast to others for a gossip session.
Ephesians 5:33 “Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
She knows the needs of her husband and seeks to meet them in every way. She does him good romantically, knowing that God designed him with physical needs that only she should take care of.
I Corinthians 7:2-5 “Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise, also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.”
She will do him good by the words she uses. She will not seek to stir him up by nagging, being angry, or contentious.
Proverbs 21:19 “It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.”
Proverbs 27:15 “A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.”
Proverbs 10:12 “Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.”
This woman has set her course in life to please her Savior. She desires to obey Him more than anything. As she seeks to do so, she finds the joy and satisfaction that God intended for her to have as a godly wife.
God has a perfect plan for each of us, but sometimes the world paints a picture that is deceiving. Satan wants us to think that God is holding out on us, that if we follow His plan we will miss out on all the fun things in life. He wants us to think serving others is a downgrade in life. He wants us to seek our own way, not God’s. After all, that’s what he convinced Eve to do. That is why it is a struggle today to be the person God designed us to be, but with Christ in control, it is possible for us to do our husbands good all our days.
You may not be married and feel there is no value in this devotion for your life, but you can teach others the biblical principles included in Proverbs 31. All scripture is profitable for all of us. I wonder what the effects would be if every married Christian woman sought to do her husband good!
